Ann055
New member
Hi guys,
I'm kind of having a rough time right now. As some of you know, my Dad passed away November 15, 2013 and is creeping up on one year he's been gone from us. It's really hard because my Mom is having a really rough time. You know they were married 57 years on June 10 last year. I'm 58. They were married June 10th and I was born June 20th...a year later...and that always brought laughs to all my parent's friends. You know, my Dad beat colon cancer and was cancer free for 11 years. Then, all of a sudden, the first of September last year, it reared its ugly head again - kidney cancer among other things. He had a kidney removed...he wanted to try...but to no avail...it went throughout his body quickly and his body just shut down. He planned his entire funeral and told my Mom, his Sister, by brother and sister-in-law, my oldest son, his wife, my two grandchildren, my youngest son and myself EXACTLY what he wanted for EVERYTHING. He's AMAZING - he gathered ALL OF US in his hospital room together and told us. When it came time, we were all there with him and told him it was ok, we would be fine, he could go - he fought a short time and looked at each of us one more time and then he was gone.
My mother did everything with my dad and she has health issues. My brother (who is 9 years younger than me) is having a terrible time and he has some health issues of his own now. My youngest son lived with my parents and was so very close to my Dad. He is having an extremely hard time too. My Dad's sister and him were the closest brother and sister ever. My 14 year old grandson had to have open heart surgery this summer and he was so healthy or so we thought. When he went for his football physical, the doctors found a problem - genetic. He had the surgery and is doing fine, thank the Good Lord. I have some health issues myself and as a result, I cannot be with my Mom all the time. My brother, sister-in-law and my youngest son all live with her now. She loves all of them being there, however she and my son were so used to being there together, just the two of them, and he really looked after her and he is so kind. My Mom has been though SO much change in the past year that anything new is extremely difficult for her. I feel guilty that I cannot be physically there for her because she's told me and also my Aunt how much fun she has with me and also I with her.
Then, my youngest son called me at midnight and told me my Uncle (my Mom's sister's husband) passed away late last night. He was 89 years old, a brilliant, kind man, but his health hadn't been good for some time. My Aunt has multiple health issues, one of which I also have. She's younger than my Mom. They live out in beautiful country in Arkansas and rescued dogs and cats - the ones no one wants - health issues, disabled, etc. I lived with them before my health issues and boy, did I have a ball - 18 cats and 11 dogs - and all of them had issues and medicine and shots and disabilities. The animals were a full time job and then the huge garden and the mowing, etc. I loved it though. Now, I don't have any idea what she is going to do. I would go there in a New York second if I didn't want to leave my Mom and didn't have health issues.
Oh well, I step at a time. I'm sorry I have written a book. I guess I just felt like my Carrie Family would understand. I'll be okay - I'll just snuggle up with my 23 year old kitty cat - can you believe that - my Tiger - she's right here beside me (she has diabetes, my poor baby, but as her vet just told me last week, she's the healthiest geriatic cat I've ever seen - and listen to Carrie and Michael W. Smith and Chris Tomlin and The Swon Brothers and others and try and get some sleep. I haven't talked to my Mom yet because my brother woke her up and told her. My son called me to tell me.
I will continue to pray and ask for strength. Thank you for listening. All of you give an extra hug to your family and your friends.
~Ann
I'm kind of having a rough time right now. As some of you know, my Dad passed away November 15, 2013 and is creeping up on one year he's been gone from us. It's really hard because my Mom is having a really rough time. You know they were married 57 years on June 10 last year. I'm 58. They were married June 10th and I was born June 20th...a year later...and that always brought laughs to all my parent's friends. You know, my Dad beat colon cancer and was cancer free for 11 years. Then, all of a sudden, the first of September last year, it reared its ugly head again - kidney cancer among other things. He had a kidney removed...he wanted to try...but to no avail...it went throughout his body quickly and his body just shut down. He planned his entire funeral and told my Mom, his Sister, by brother and sister-in-law, my oldest son, his wife, my two grandchildren, my youngest son and myself EXACTLY what he wanted for EVERYTHING. He's AMAZING - he gathered ALL OF US in his hospital room together and told us. When it came time, we were all there with him and told him it was ok, we would be fine, he could go - he fought a short time and looked at each of us one more time and then he was gone.
My mother did everything with my dad and she has health issues. My brother (who is 9 years younger than me) is having a terrible time and he has some health issues of his own now. My youngest son lived with my parents and was so very close to my Dad. He is having an extremely hard time too. My Dad's sister and him were the closest brother and sister ever. My 14 year old grandson had to have open heart surgery this summer and he was so healthy or so we thought. When he went for his football physical, the doctors found a problem - genetic. He had the surgery and is doing fine, thank the Good Lord. I have some health issues myself and as a result, I cannot be with my Mom all the time. My brother, sister-in-law and my youngest son all live with her now. She loves all of them being there, however she and my son were so used to being there together, just the two of them, and he really looked after her and he is so kind. My Mom has been though SO much change in the past year that anything new is extremely difficult for her. I feel guilty that I cannot be physically there for her because she's told me and also my Aunt how much fun she has with me and also I with her.
Then, my youngest son called me at midnight and told me my Uncle (my Mom's sister's husband) passed away late last night. He was 89 years old, a brilliant, kind man, but his health hadn't been good for some time. My Aunt has multiple health issues, one of which I also have. She's younger than my Mom. They live out in beautiful country in Arkansas and rescued dogs and cats - the ones no one wants - health issues, disabled, etc. I lived with them before my health issues and boy, did I have a ball - 18 cats and 11 dogs - and all of them had issues and medicine and shots and disabilities. The animals were a full time job and then the huge garden and the mowing, etc. I loved it though. Now, I don't have any idea what she is going to do. I would go there in a New York second if I didn't want to leave my Mom and didn't have health issues.
Oh well, I step at a time. I'm sorry I have written a book. I guess I just felt like my Carrie Family would understand. I'll be okay - I'll just snuggle up with my 23 year old kitty cat - can you believe that - my Tiger - she's right here beside me (she has diabetes, my poor baby, but as her vet just told me last week, she's the healthiest geriatic cat I've ever seen - and listen to Carrie and Michael W. Smith and Chris Tomlin and The Swon Brothers and others and try and get some sleep. I haven't talked to my Mom yet because my brother woke her up and told her. My son called me to tell me.
I will continue to pray and ask for strength. Thank you for listening. All of you give an extra hug to your family and your friends.
~Ann
. You and your family are in my prayers. It's hard when our parents and older aunts and uncles are in bad health, it's just hard to not be able to do anything but pray for them and love them. I'm glad that your kitty is still with you.